PARENTING A BOON - A PATH TO BE MASTERED
PARENTING - A PATH TO BE MASTERED
I feel parenting starts when you aware from the moment that you are pregnant. It starts when the baby is in womb. The Mother attributes this virtuous deed starting from first day of the conception to till the baby is born, crossing each stage of pregnancy, listening to doctor's do's and dont's with fear, silent prayers for well-being of the unborn baby, managing her pain and physiological imbalance with mood swings and at the same time gaining the wisdom to deliver the baby which is wordless to explain.
Parenting establishes strong when you see your born baby, it starts with breastfeeding and you don't even mind about your sleep pattern and you fall asleep in the mornings. This become your new routine for month's together. For some mother's this would be their routine even when the child reaches 2 years of age.
As though we started parenting in the womb. As though we are giving great care and attention to our little ones, but still we want our children to be all-rounder, so we are imposing lot more things on them. Looking in detail, we want the children to exhibit talents in all spheres of intelligence which are as follows,
1. Linguistic
2. Logical-Mathematical
3. Musical
4. Spatial
5. Bodily-Kinesthetic.
We sometimes, because we are in the era of Information generation, we impose on children to learn many things or new skills forcibly. According to Howard Gardener, a famous developmental psychologist, he stated in his book "Frames of Mind," for the child of age 6, 7 or 8 the degree of success the child able to reach on which things he can do, which constitute a chief importance of his/her self-knowledge. So this is the age for acquiring competence and at the same time, the child is facing himself with fear to appear unskilled self before others. He strives not to appear as one. This is the most relevant point I feel, because we parents have to appreciate who he/she actually is, but many parents carrying an attitude to tell others that their child doesn't have time to play at home (skating, instrument class, solo carnatic or western, swimming, calligraphy, drawing, role play, dance, story telling class etc.,) because they are sending them for many classes and forcing their kids to learn many things at a time. We want our children to excel in every aspect of intelligence. We are not giving adequate time for them to be themselves at times for situations to handle on their own. This is what we can call otherwise is overparenting.
A famous author has quoted that in his book "Outliers," Practice makes perfect, but mastery requires 10,000 hours of effort. Even Bill Gates had spent 10,000 hours to become a frontier in his area of domain. Similarly, the same principle applies even for robbers too.
The boon of parenting is experienced by these parents - HOW:
Woodrow Wilson, who was to become president of the United States, did not learn his letters until he was nine or learn to read until he was eleven because his father read to him. His father could not wait for him to learn to read the books he himself enjoyed and wanted his son to enjoy.
This is the sentence I framed on the wall at my home, the very most sentence I used to ponder every morning when I get up from bed is, "When communication and understanding are good between an adult and a promising child, the relationship is rewarding for both."
Harvey Williams Cushing is the father of modern neurosurgery, was a very poor speller in his youth, also as an adult, but his mother who was never one to let time hang on her hands, in the half-hour lunch period, she taught him spelling.
Mohandas Gandhi, our Father of nation, was left to the care of his mother Putlibai. He was a slight, timid, homely boy who was the fourth and last child of his family. No one expected much of this last child. He was fearful for serpents, ghosts, and darkness and he always clung to his mother for support and affection. Except his mother appreciated who he is.
We have to appreciate our kids who they really are. We have to take the extra mile for our child everyday. Eminence of our children are in our hands. My final word about the joy of parenting is, it should be rewarding for both the child and the parent.
I feel parenting starts when you aware from the moment that you are pregnant. It starts when the baby is in womb. The Mother attributes this virtuous deed starting from first day of the conception to till the baby is born, crossing each stage of pregnancy, listening to doctor's do's and dont's with fear, silent prayers for well-being of the unborn baby, managing her pain and physiological imbalance with mood swings and at the same time gaining the wisdom to deliver the baby which is wordless to explain.
Parenting establishes strong when you see your born baby, it starts with breastfeeding and you don't even mind about your sleep pattern and you fall asleep in the mornings. This become your new routine for month's together. For some mother's this would be their routine even when the child reaches 2 years of age.
As though we started parenting in the womb. As though we are giving great care and attention to our little ones, but still we want our children to be all-rounder, so we are imposing lot more things on them. Looking in detail, we want the children to exhibit talents in all spheres of intelligence which are as follows,
1. Linguistic
2. Logical-Mathematical
3. Musical
4. Spatial
5. Bodily-Kinesthetic.
We sometimes, because we are in the era of Information generation, we impose on children to learn many things or new skills forcibly. According to Howard Gardener, a famous developmental psychologist, he stated in his book "Frames of Mind," for the child of age 6, 7 or 8 the degree of success the child able to reach on which things he can do, which constitute a chief importance of his/her self-knowledge. So this is the age for acquiring competence and at the same time, the child is facing himself with fear to appear unskilled self before others. He strives not to appear as one. This is the most relevant point I feel, because we parents have to appreciate who he/she actually is, but many parents carrying an attitude to tell others that their child doesn't have time to play at home (skating, instrument class, solo carnatic or western, swimming, calligraphy, drawing, role play, dance, story telling class etc.,) because they are sending them for many classes and forcing their kids to learn many things at a time. We want our children to excel in every aspect of intelligence. We are not giving adequate time for them to be themselves at times for situations to handle on their own. This is what we can call otherwise is overparenting.
A famous author has quoted that in his book "Outliers," Practice makes perfect, but mastery requires 10,000 hours of effort. Even Bill Gates had spent 10,000 hours to become a frontier in his area of domain. Similarly, the same principle applies even for robbers too.
The boon of parenting is experienced by these parents - HOW:
Woodrow Wilson, who was to become president of the United States, did not learn his letters until he was nine or learn to read until he was eleven because his father read to him. His father could not wait for him to learn to read the books he himself enjoyed and wanted his son to enjoy.
This is the sentence I framed on the wall at my home, the very most sentence I used to ponder every morning when I get up from bed is, "When communication and understanding are good between an adult and a promising child, the relationship is rewarding for both."
Harvey Williams Cushing is the father of modern neurosurgery, was a very poor speller in his youth, also as an adult, but his mother who was never one to let time hang on her hands, in the half-hour lunch period, she taught him spelling.
Mohandas Gandhi, our Father of nation, was left to the care of his mother Putlibai. He was a slight, timid, homely boy who was the fourth and last child of his family. No one expected much of this last child. He was fearful for serpents, ghosts, and darkness and he always clung to his mother for support and affection. Except his mother appreciated who he is.
We have to appreciate our kids who they really are. We have to take the extra mile for our child everyday. Eminence of our children are in our hands. My final word about the joy of parenting is, it should be rewarding for both the child and the parent.
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